Getting Back on the Horse

Posted on Feb 20, 2012 | 1 comment

Getting Back on the Horse

So often in life we find ourselves in the position of starting over again.  I am there now and I have been here before (many times) and I will be here again in the future.  As a friend once said “I’ve been around this mountain before” and doesn’t it feel sometimes like the never ending journey?  I suppose that is because it is. Right now as I contemplate picking myself up and moving forward there is one thing that brings me comfort.  This time around the mountain I have tools I have learned that I did not have last time around.  And I believe that fact will make all the difference in the world! So here are just a few of the tools I have learned that will help me through this rebuilding process – maybe they will help you on your journey around the mountain. Staying put is not an option.  When we were children we were told that if we got lost to stay right where we were and someone would come back to get us.  We are the adults now and that means we find our way.  This does not mean that you can’t ask for directions or a map – but it is up to you to ask for help.  And then it is up to you to put one foot in front of the other and move in some direction – listen to that voice inside of yourself and it will be the right direction. When help comes – accept it with Grace.  How often do we say “I don’t want to be a burden”?  But we are all interconnected and that means we need each other to create a better life and ultimately a better world.  And sometimes that mountain is just so very big and it is nice to have company on the journey.  Let those who love you and those you have never met help you to find your way around that mountain.  This is courage – to accept that we are human – and sometimes that means we need a little help.  And help often comes in a form you are not expecting so keep your heart open so you will know it when it arrives. We are ONLY human.  Humans have great capacity, but in the end we are only human, warts and all.  Every one of us has been here at one time or another and this means that perfection does not exist.  Beating yourself up for “insert flaw here” is a human tendency, but we are all flawed in one way or another.  I believe we are here to learn lessons and if we are perfect, there are no lessons to learn – so what is the point?  So treat yourself with a little compassion and let yourself off that perfection hook.  The sooner you do the sooner you can get on with the journey. So I for one am vowing to each of you and to myself to pick myself up, dust myself off and get on with it.  I will do my human best to give a hand when I can and to accept a hand when it is offered.  I hope I meet you on the trail and we can share part of this journey. Namaste...

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Distraction

Posted on Mar 15, 2011 | 0 comments

Have you noticed all the devices that distract us from what is really important?  When we watch TV (a distraction in itself most of the time) have you noticed the crawl across the bottom of the screen?  When we go out for a meal with friends or family have you noticed how many TVs there are in the restaurant?  What about the radio playing everywhere?  And of course there are the ever present hand-held devices that make us feel that we are somehow missing something if we don’t know about it immediately. Have you ever stopped to wonder exactly what it is we are being distracted from?  How about why we are being distracted?  I am not talking about a conspiracy by the media or the makers of technology, they are simply filling the demands of the consumers.  The bigger question is; why are we, the consumers, demanding these distractions?  We can’t all have ADD!  My opinion is that we want to be distracted from ourselves.  This is why meditation is so difficult – because when we sit in silence we meet ourselves face to face.  And sometimes we don’t like what we see. We are running scared by constantly having our attention drawn to things outside of ourselves.  We are afraid that if we stop running away and sit still and listen we may find that the life we have is not the life we need.  And if that realization comes home to roost, we will be forced to make changes.  And change is hard and uncomfortable and scary. But when we look at the alternative, a life spent running from ourselves, it seems pointless.  Like a dog chasing its own tail!  It takes real courage to sit down with ourselves and truly listen.  To “hear” the fears and joys of our heart.  To be truly present with our lives.  Meditation and Yoga is not for the faint of heart. We can all begin by just noticing the ways in which we distract ourselves.  It may be checking e-mail/phones/news constantly.  Or maybe having the TV on all the time without watching it.  Perhaps it is being “plugged in” every waking minute.  But there is good news, once we are aware of something, we have the power to change it.  It may take time and energy.  But with patience, love and kindness we may just find ourselves living a life that is bigger and better than we ever dreamed. We owe it to ourselves, to the people we love and love us, and to the world to live our very best life.  It is only by changing ourselves that we are able to change the...

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